(Yafet)I dunnoas a boy, culturallycoming from-i'm coming from being CaribbeanAfro Caribbeanmy house where pops was like a alpha-malemoms was more the caregiver& the more loving, affectionate onei wasn't really raised to beas vulnerableso this is already proving challenging for meto i guess expresshow i would really feelif you weren't herein the next 24 hourssoi'm giving my bestbut just letting you know what it isloss is a big thingpeople deal with loss differently, mandifferent wayssome of uscope in healthy ways& sometimesit's not as healthyi guess it depends on how a personleavesyour lifeyou know?(Xolisa)mmm,hmmhave you been that close to someone passinglike, in front of you?
(Yafet)yeah, i experienced my grandmother dying& a friend of mine around my agepassing away just about maybe 2 years agomy grandmother more than 2 years ago2009it's really weird manit's just, you know, at this stateit was you know,them being in the hospitalgoing to visit them& again, that feeling of hopelessnessthat feeling of a lack or a loss of controlit's like, you took away my choicei didn't choose for thisi didn't choose for it& you didn't give me - you didn't give me a choiceto have a choice
(Xolisa)that's so real
(Yafet)you know what i mean?you didn't give me a choiceyou didn't give me an opportunity to havea choicei am forced to accept or rejectthat a person that i lovethat i'm close withthat i've invested timeenergyemotion& life events intois leavingthey don't have a choicei don't have a choice